How Do You

This is something I wrote the day before the one year anniversary of the accident.  It really isn’t complete or anything, it’s just a few thoughts that were going through my head at that time.


How do you measure a year? In days, weeks and months? Or in moments and memories?

How do you describe how drastically life can change in a single moment for three families in three very different ways?

How do you explain God bringing two of these families together in ways you could never imagine for reasons you still don’t know?

How do you imagine that a family on the brink of disaster can be saved by such a costly tragedy?

How do you reconcile being joyously grateful for the daughter you still have while dreadfully missing the girl she used to be?

How do you come home at the end of the day to your child being there when a friend down the street comes home to her child’s empty bedroom?

How do you grieve that your daughter can no longer play the sport she loves when another’s daughter is no longer here?

How do you miss and ache so much for someone that you didn’t know all that well?

How do you open your hands and let go of your shattered dreams so God can give you new dreams when you don’t yet know what they are?

2 thoughts on “How Do You

  1. Ruth Ann Turner

    I wish I had answers for you, but I don’t. There’s a line in Remember The Titans that I think of – Carol Boone says to Coach Boone after Gerry’s car accident – “Sometimes life is hard for no reason at all.”
    We have no guarantees in this life except one-that our Almighty God will never leave us or forsake us. Especially for the past 29 years, I have clung to & claimed that promise. I also really like the poem “Footprints in the Sand” because there are many times that God has carried me, even when I’ve questioned Why? or been angry.
    Kent told me a week after his accident that the old Kent died when he fell off that cliff. He has had to make a new life. With God’s help, he has, but it hasn’t been easy & he too has had many times of asking Why?
    I know there are some people who never ask why or don’t question God.
    We aren’t those people, & I thank God that He loves us & accepts us even when we question Him.
    The irony is that you usually don’t fully appreciate someone or something until you lose them.
    Sorry to go on for so long, but just wanted to share some of my thoughts with you. And I don’t want you to think it’s all been bad & negative, because God has been & continues to be good & provide many unexpected blessings to us.
    We hold you close to our hearts in our thoughts & prayers.
    Ruth Ann

    1. Post author

      Thank you Ruth Ann. I will give you a call sometime this week or weekend.


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